When Marriage Can't Meet All Your Needs.... Then What?

When circumstances in your relationship are shaky, TRUST GOD.

Colossians 2:9-10 tells us, For in Christ all the fullness of the Deity lives in bodily form, ¹⁰ and in Christ you have been brought to fullness. He is the head over every power and authority.

What an awesome scripture to refer to when things seem less than perfect. Marriages today are facing so many pressure points but how comforting is it to know that the one and only God, our heavenly Father, is head of over EVERY power and authority. Think about what this scripture is saying, God is head of that bank that you need the loan from, he is head of that boss that just seems to have it out for you, he is head of your enemies, he is head of everything in your life, including your marriage and your husband. Find all that you need in Him.


The story of the Samarian woman at the well illustrates this truth very well. A woman who had sought out multiple men yet still was not content with her life. She desperately thirsted after the living water that Jesus spoke about and she received it. All she ever needed in life she received that day from Christ and was complete. (John 4:7-42)


As wives sometimes we look to our husbands to provide for us, take care of us, minister to our needs and sometimes God allows them to. However, God wants you to know that He is your provider.


When your husband disappoints you, when marriage hits a tough spot refer to:

Phillippians 2:3-4, Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, ⁴ not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.

Phillippians 4:4-7, Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! ⁵ Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. ⁶ Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. ⁷ And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

God, is teaching us how to handle situations when things aren't going right. So create your plan of attack and prepare for a spiritual fight when the struggles hit your marriage.

• Put your husband before yourself, see his point of view

• Give God praise even during the tough stuff, because you already know, He is all you need to beat this test

• Be gentle, say and do all things in love

• Present your requests to God in prayer and petition him to enter into your situation

• Thank God for your victory, because you know you already have it, scripture says ask, believe and receive that he has answered your prayers

• Be at peace knowing God will guard your heart and your mind, and all is well.

Keep in mind that husbands and wives have a unique opportunity to minister to each other in a way that we can not minister to people outside of our marriage. It is important to examine yourself and your responses to your spouse. Your testimony is just as important in your marriage as it is to a stranger. So be careful how you speak to and treat one another in all times, but importantly during the struggles. The greatest testimony God can give you is to allow your spouse to see Him, actively working and living in you.